Saturday, January 1, 2011

A meme cause Aunt Becky said so

1. What did you do in 2010 that you’d never done before?
Started this here blog

2. Did you keep your New Year’s resolutions, and will you make more for next year?
I don't make them, I never keep them so I just don't make them. Although this year I do plan to try and find Becky again and be better to her.

3. Did anyone close to you give birth?
Actually yes my baby sister gave birth to my beautiful little nephew on April 16th 8 minutes after tax day ended. He's the sweetest little guy I just adore him and unlike mine when he starts fussing I can give him back

4. Did anyone close to you die? 
No one incredible close to me died but a few people I knew passed away, the one that probably bothered me most was my next door neighbor. She was the sweetest little old lady ever and I miss her, she was always so awesome to me and especially my kids.

5. What would you like to have in 2011 that you lacked in 2010?
More of my sanity, and for my son to throw a few less tantrums would be stellar

6. What countries did you visit?
Well unless Tennessee or Florida are considered a different country none, but hopefully that will change this year

7. What date from 2010 will remain etched upon your memory, and why:
May 6th when my tax check didn't come like promised, damn government

8. What was your biggest achievement of the year?
Making it through another year without the hubs filing for divorce? 

9. What was your biggest failure?
I fail equally well at so many things I don't think any one thing stands out as my biggest.

10. Did you suffer illness or injury?
I have endometriosis I suffer on a pretty regular basis

11. What was the best thing you bought?
The flat screen for our living room, not sure why since it's caused all kinds of new fights like "I'm watching tv" "but I wanna play the Wii" (insert whiny voices)

12. Whose behavior merited celebration?
My sons totally change of heart about preschool. He went from "I'm not going school sucks" to " I love school can I go today even though it's Saturday"

13. Whose behavior made you appalled and depressed?
 I'm going to choose not to answer this to keep the peace, because answering this could start a  new war. Normally I wouldn't give a shit but I'm trying to turn over a new leaf. Hahahahahaha

14. Where did most of your money go?
First of all meme financial questions are rude, second I have kids where and a mortgage where the hell do you think most of it went. What money my blood sucking mortgage company (rhymes with Skank of Smerica)  didn't get the monkeys got spent on them in all kinds of forms.

15. What did you get really, really, really excited about?
Strangely enough seeing my mom, School getting out for my girl, family vacations, school starting back up for both kids

16. What song will always remind you of 2010?
Enrique Iglesias I like it  Yea I fist pump too get over it

17. Compared to this time last year, are you:
i. happier or sadder? Happier I think still working on my med dosage so I'll get back to ya

ii. thinner or fatter?  thinner thank gawd, still have a ways to go but getting there
iii. richer or poorer? again with then financial questions meme your kinda rude

18. What do you wish you’d done more of?
Spent more time doing the things I like to do instead of the things I have to do

19. What do you wish you’d done less of?
Stressing over weather the hubs was gonna be upset cause I spent x amount of money and just told him hey deal with it

20. How will you be spending Christmas?
I spent Christmas Eve hosting 20+ people at my house like I do every year and it was great, my kids are spoiled as always and I love every person who walked through my door, Christmas day was spent at home just us all day long in our pjs. It was bliss

21. Aunt Becky threw this in since there wasn't one and I'll just keep hers. Why are you so damn sexy?
 Cause I'm just awesome like that!

22. Did you fall in love in 2010?
I was already in love


23. How many one-night stands?
More than I can count cause I'm a big fucking whore! No really I think the hubs might kill me for that so I've kept the whole creeping to a minimum and by that I mean none retarded as 
meme

24. What was your favorite TV program?
Only one? Can't choose 1 decisions make me itch. So True Blood, Pretty Little Liars, Reality Tv (I'm not naming what) and a few others

25. Do you hate anyone now that you didn’t hate this time last year?
Squirrel

26. What was the best book you read?
Again your asking me to choose 1 ugh I'll list authors instead Laurell K. Hamilton, Kresley Cole, Gena Showalter 

27. What was your greatest musical discovery?
I'm a SAHM that recently started blogging not fucking P. Diddy I haven't discovered shit

28. What did you want and get?
A new toaster and a pair of slippers

 Apparently there's no 29 and I don't feel like making one up

30. What was your favorite film of this year?
Tangled it's the only thing I've seen new but it was pretty damn good


31. What did you do on your birthday, and how old were you?
Went out and danced on barstools and got annihilated I was 30 this year it wasn't to bad after all

32. What one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying?
Winning the $290 Mil Power ball on Tuesday I'll even share

33. How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2010?
Try not to look like a total mom everyday

34. What kept you sane?
I have 2 kids and have been with the same man for almost 13 years I'm no where near sane, but drugs help keep me semi balanced

35. Which celebrity/public figure did you fancy the most?
Aunt Becky  (she's a celeb right)

36. What political issue stirred you the most?
Any of them have the ability to piss me off if I think about them for more than a minute, really I just wish the government would do what it was put in place for to run the country and quit trying to tell the rest of us how to run our lives. What I do with my body inside my home is no one elses business if I'm not harming anyone else. JMO
 
37. Who did you miss?
My dad, my gram and my gramp. and  I always will. Every day of every year for the rest of my life there will always be some moment in time that I want them to be there sharing with me and they aren't here physically to do that and I'll never, ever really get over that.

38. Who was the best new person you met?
I don't know if anyone person is the best person I met but my friend Donna is up there

39. Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2010:
Sometimes you have to make time for yourself

40. Quote a song lyric that sums up your year:
I got nothing here


Ok so there's my meme for 2011 because Aunt Becky told me so. Feel free to steal it if you want :-) 

 

Thursday, December 30, 2010

2011 It's a New Year and a New Me (Maybe)

 Every year around this time we all sit around and make all the grand new years resolutions. I never really make them because I never ever keep them. By January 2nd at the latest I've already broken mine. So this year instead of making a resolution to quit smoking, or lose x amount of pounds, I've decided I'm going to work on just being a better me. Or really just work on being me again.

See almost 9 years ago I gave birth to this amazing little girl who calls me mommy and I got this great new job of taking care of her, then I married her dad and a few years later I gave birth to her little brother. I love this job of being a wife and mother to these beautiful crazy kids of mine, and taking care of my wonderful husband and our house and even the annoying chewing wonder that is our dog. But somewhere along the journey I started to lose me. I never intended to stop being Becky, but in the craziness that is our day to day life I guess Becky stopped being quite so important and her wants and needs started taking a back seat to everyone elses, and lately I've noticed something is not all together right. I'm not happy, I'm not unhappy with my husband or kids I love them all dearly I'm just not happy with myself. I feel less than. There's really no other way to put it.

I realized Becky needs to come back and take her rightful place back in the drivers seat. It's time she started having a little bit more attention because even though I'll always be their mom, one day they won't need me to be there holding their hands for them constantly and then what am I going to have? I need something for me.

I've decided it's time for me to go back to school, so I will go see that academic adviser and get started working toward my teaching degree. I will also start working on being  healthier not so much to lose weight or quit smoking, if either of those things happen great but that's not the ultimate goal. Just being more conscious of how I eat and take care of myself is the point. I'll also make it a point to go out once in awhile with my friends for me not just for playdates with the kids. Playdates are great and I love the parents of my kids friends hell most of them are the ones I plan to go out with it's just sometimes we need to get out without the kids.

So while 2011 may be the year of Rabbit in the Chinese calendar for me it's the year of Becky. This may not be all together easy considering all the things my kids are involved in, but really the whole point is just to make a little extra effort for myself. So instead of cleaning the kitchen every night after they go to bed some nights I may just take a nice long hot bath or read a book (an adult book that doesn't include a running Gingerbread man).

I'll keep being mom and the hubs wife I'm hoping I'll just be a happier version of her because I found the Becky that got lost along the way.

Tuesday, December 28, 2010

I'm an Idiot Just ask my husband

After almost 9 years of marriage I still constantly get it wrong. I think I'm doing the right thing and I'm not, or I think I did something that's going to make him mad and again I'm surprised because I was wrong.

Over the years a constant argument in our house has been finances. As with many couples I'm sure. I've always been the one responsible for doing the banking and making sure everything gets paid on time. On more than one occasion I have totally and completely screwed said bills 10 ways to hell, then lied my ass off about it. It would start out small then snowball out of control until many of them were so far behind I couldn't see straight. Then I would finally fess up to the hubs and we would figure it all out together get everything back on track and then I would somehow be back in charge of everything.

This cycle has repeated itself numerous times over the years always with the same results. I tearfully admit my screwups and wrong doing, he yells and stays mad for a day or two then we fix it and move on. Always with me back at the helm of the money ship. The last time this occurred he promised to take charge so that he could see for himself where things tended to go wrong and also so there was no need to hold me responsible. This way we could take the biggest issue in our marriage out. However his taking charge lasted all of 5 minutes and I had to take care of things or none of the bills would have gotten paid.

This time around things have actually gone pretty well. I may have paid things late here and there but almost always within the month they were due just not necessarily on the actual due date. The only thing I did wrong in my eyes was he didn't want the savings account touched and I was having to dip into it here and there especially with the boys birthday and Christmas. But when he started asking questions about how much was in said account I wouldn't answer because I was positive another fight was on the horizon.

So instead of being an adult and just telling him listen this is what's what I beat around the bush, ignored him, changed the subject and did just about anything I could to avoid the answer. Until today. Today he said to me there isn't a savings account anymore is there? And I knew I had pretty much ruined all the trust that was left and the one man whos opinion of me that mattered was such shit that I can't even face it, that I finally threw the number in the account at him and told him if he wanted to fight about it fine lets do this. To which he replied thats ok I'm not mad at that, just the games you play.

So now I feel like the biggest douche on earth and I don't even know if I can fix the damage I've done yet again to my marriage. I probably don't deserve this man anyway. Hopefully somehow, someway he can find it in himself to forgive me yet one more time for being the basket case that I am. But I wouldn't be surprised or blame him if he didn't

Sunday, December 26, 2010

Christmas 2010 really was merry and bright

Every year since the girl was about 2 we've hosted Christmas eve dinner at our house. It's a several hour affair, so we give a start time about an hour before dinner and we know  guests will come and go throughout the evening. No one is expected to show at a certain time and stay till a certain time it's all fairly informal.  We do this for 2 reasons 1) so we don't have to drag our children to see everyone that wants to see them 2) so on Christmas morning after they open their gifts they can stay in their pjs and actually play with all their new booty.

This year was no different we invited everyone who mattered in our lives to join us on Christmas eve in our home and most of them did. Of course not everyone is able to make it, some people have their own plans and family obligations to tend to and we understand that. We miss those that aren't able to make it and wish they could have joined us but we get it.

This year was really no different than any other a few different faces some regulars weren't able to make it and some people who don't regularly make it did. All in all it was a success. I enjoyed spending time with each and every person who came my only regret is that I never seem to have enough time for each person. I have to spread myself out so I can chat with everyone and I always feel like I could have spent a little more quality time with each of them but that's part of life I guess. I hope that everyone that came enjoyed themselves as much as we did, as I said if you were invited to be here with us you matter and we love you.

There are a couple things that could have made our Christmas Eve tradition a little bit more perfect, like having my mom here with us. I know me and the kids missed her, especially me and the girl. The girl has this really strong bond with her grammy and she misses her on regular days but things like Christmas when your supposed to have all your family around well that gets her a little bit. And well even at 30 I'm a little bit of a mamas girl and I've been going through some emotional crap lately and I'm really missing my mom so it would have been really perfect if she could have been here. But she couldn't get away from work, so she's 1070 mile away in sunny Florida celebrating with my grandpa and great gram but she better have her bony butt up here next year or I might have to fly down there and drag her up myself.

So after the Christmas eve festivities Christmas morning was of course chaotic with the 2 munchkins opening all their presents. It started at 8a.m. and by 8:06a.m. wrapping paper was flying through the air. Lots of giggling and smiling ensued. I had 2 very happy little ones on my hands. By 9 everything had been opened and the kids were ready to get down to the business of playing. Which as all the parents out there know is where the migraine comes in, getting all those fun toys out of the packages. I swear most of what we pay for isn't the toy but all the crap they use to keep the damn thing in the box.

So all in all my bank account is smarting but other than that Christmas turned out to be pretty merry and bright after all. There were moments when I wasn't sure it would be, but I fought my butt off and in the end it was all worth it for the smiles on my babies faces, and the time spent with all the people who matter in my life.

Monday, December 20, 2010

Christmas presents ~I might be in hell~

I love Christmas or at least I usually do but something is just off with me this year. Money isn't exactly growing on trees and that is rather suckish since I really like to give gifts, but I had pretty much reconciled myself with the fact that really only my kids, the hubs and a small handful of people would be receiving this year. To be honest I was ok with this, a little less stress trying to find the perfect gift for everyone anyway.

Besides there's always the Christmas cookies to hand out. You know the ones that start being baked like 3 weeks in advance so there's enough for oh a small army. But somehow even that isn't going as planned, and every time I turn around I'm hearing how someone else I had no intentions of buying for is not only buying for my children but for myself and the hubs as well. So of course now I feel like totally obligated to get them something more than just cookies. Cookies which by the way I'm 4 days away from a ton of people coming over for Christmas eve dinner and I haven't baked a single one.

On top of all that every time I think I'm finally done going to the store to buy my kids and hubs or one of the 100 other people that somehow made it on to my gift list, I realize oh no there's still this and that that's been forgotten. Like the gift certificate for someone who was actually on the original to buy for list or the stocking stuffers for my husband. I'm so out of it I almost forgot to buy my own mother a present, thank the good lord for ship direct with priority shipping. I'm  also pretty sure at this point my bank account is running on fumes and all my creative bill paying and shuffling is still not going to work out in the end.

My worst fear though  is someone is going to walk away from my house feeling bad because I forgot to get them a gift, or what ever I did give them was rather suckish. So tomorrow I will make one last friggin trip out into the madness that is last minute holiday shopping hell and hope that I don't forget anything else, cause if I do oh fucking well it's just to bad. Here's a bucket of cookies (hopefully I've come up with the energy to bake the damn things) eat a couple and be merry! Ho Ho fucking Ho!

Sunday, December 5, 2010

People really buy this stuff~ The odd, the interesting, and the ridiculous



 

JAPANESE PAPER ENVELOPE
$46.00 

Hold Everything!  

World-renowned industrial designer Naoto Fukasawa has turned the humble throwaway envelope into a durable, all-purpose receptacle you can use again and again. Fukasawa's creation is made of "Soft Naoron," material developed of wood pulp and polyolefin by Japanese paper manufacturer ONAO. It's flexible, water-resistant and tear-proof, so the envelope is sturdy enough to hold up to 22 pounds and can even safely hold wet objects. Destined to become an essential item for anyone committed to a more sustainable, less disposable way of living. Each piece is individually crafted. Handmade in Japan. 

 $46.00 for an friggin envelope are you kidding me, unless that thing is going to start reproducing money inside itself for me I don't care how many times I can reuse it, it's not worth that kind of money.

 

$30.00

In Today's Finance Section...


Finances are not a laughing matter. Well, unless your wallet is covered in comics. Made from recycled newspaper funnies and soft, durable, water-resistant laminate this fun wallet will make you smile even when you're shelling out the cash. And for those who are a bit more serious about banking (but not that serious) the news wallet will be perfect reading material for all those presidents you keep in the dark. Features large pocket for bills and four smaller pockets for cards. Handmade in Los Angeles. Available in comic section (shown at left) or news section (shown at right). Due to the recycled nature of this item, each is one of a kind.


Now this is actually a pretty cool twist on the whole reduce, reuse, recycle mantra.


Vending Fridge - Blue

Now this little gem I need someone to share with the hubs I want one for the bedroom

Wednesday, November 24, 2010

What I'm thankful for-Screw it here's a list

So I had this grand plan of blogging everyday this month about one thing I was thankful for. Didn't quite work out, because well I'm the queen of grand plans and the master of sucking at the follow through. I couldn't even post a Facebook status everyday. (Rolling eyes at myself, I'm so ridiculous sometimes). So anyway I figured I am an excellent list maker hell I'll make a master list of list's that's how much I love lists. I know a little anal. So without further ado.I'm thankful for

1. My beautiful, healthy children
2. My amazing husband who may be certifiable for putting up with me
3. My parents for choosing to procreate and keeping me around, and for being pretty rocking most of the time
4. Mom L. for never acting like a step
5.Poppy for helping me keep the pieces together when I thought I was about to shatter
6. My in-laws also for procreating and keeping the hubs around, and also for always being as good to me as the have, especially momma without whom there are days I would surely lose my bloody mind
7. My sisters who are 2 of the best friends I could ever ask for and just so happen to have the added bonus of being related by blood to
8. the rest of my huge crazy family of which there are just way to many to name but I love each and everyone of you for everything you've ever done and the part you play in my life. You've all made it so much better, or at least more colorful ;-P
9. My friends I may not have a ton of good friends but from those few really good friends I have I gain a ton.
10. My husbands job, because it keeps the bills paid, and decent insurance coverage
11. My home
12.  My annoying puppy who I adore but may drop kick if he chews on one more thing that's not a dog toy, considering the small fortune we've spent in dog toys
13. Mrs. Garza and Mrs. Prunty my sons preschool teacher and my daughters third grade teacher, we were truly blessed this year with two of the best teachers I've ever met. These women really love what they do and it shows, the difference they make everyday in my childrens education is amazing. They inspire me enough that I fully intend to get off my butt and go back to school for a teaching degree
14. Me time when I can actually pull of a few minutes of it
15. Having a car to be able to get around when ever I want
16. Monster energy drinks and coffee to get me through the really rough days
17. The internet and all it's greatness
18. Shoes because I friggin love shoes and I'm thankful that I'm able to have as many as I do and that my husband hasn't murdered me yet for this
19.my camera without which I wouldn't be able to terrorize and document every moment of my little moneys lives
20.Music because it's gotten me though so much, when I'm happy, when I'm sad,......... there's always a song for that
21. Good books
22. Family vacations because it's good to just get away and have time for just us, they won't always be little we need to remember to enjoy this time now while we have it.
23. Blank paper and pens because it reminds me there's always a new day, a fresh start I just have to fill it in
24.Being a stay at home mom for the last 8 years, because it gave me the chance to be there for every moment, I don't have any regrets, I don't have any feelings of I missed out. I've been right where I needed and wanted to be and am more thankful for that than many will ever know.
25. The past without it I would not be who I am today. Sure I've struggled, I've been beaten, broken, I've cried, I've lost, I've hurt, and at times I wanted to give up, but I've also loved, felt amazing amounts of joy, been put back together, found strength I never knew was there, laughed, had fun, and lived. Every single moment is a piece of me, a small piece of the jigsaw puzzle that makes Becky and I'm thankful for every one of those pieces simply because they made me.

For all these things and more I am thankful. I hope all of you and your have a very Happy thanksgiving, enjoy your meal but most of all enjoy each other, and let someone know your thankful for them not just today but everyday.